Celestial Diary

I find great joy in witnessing the gathering of young individuals who unite under the banner of Christ, whether it be for an intimate bible study, an empowering youth camp, or a soul-stirring worship session. There is an undeniable warmth and beauty in the formation of godly friendships among these individuals.

Friendship is a profound connection that occurs when people with shared values and interests come together. These are the individuals who provide unwavering support and encouragement as we journey towards our goals. In times of need, they offer sound advice, and in moments of triumph, they celebrate alongside us.

The scriptures of the Bible offer invaluable wisdom when it comes to friendship, but there is one passage that particularly resonates with me as it captures the true essence of this relationship

Ecclesiates 4:9-12

Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor.
¹⁰ For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
¹¹ Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone?
¹² Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

The journey of life is already difficult, so having the right support system goes a long way. In a solid friendship, there is mutual support, love, strength, and wisdom.

Does this mean that as Christians we can be friends with anyone as long as they support and like us? NO.
There are certain things God expects from us and from the people we choose to have a close relationship with.

How to recognize Godly friendship/camaraderie?

1. Acceptance of Jesus Christ as the Lord and Savior; Without this, we cannot consider such friendship a ‘Godly’ one. (2 Corinthians 6:14; Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?). The bible couldn’t be more clearer about who we should and shouldn’t commune with BUT note that it doesn’t tell us to hate unbelievers or treat them as lesser people. It simply states that we should commune with believers for we are fellow followers of light.
2. Similar values and goals; we all want someone next to us who can cheer us on or direct us on the right path. It’s a bit difficult to do when you have a different view and take on (important) matters (Amos 3:3; Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?).
3. Love and honesty amongst each other; anyone can call themselves a friend but a real friend genuinely loves you and isn’t afraid to tell you the truth for they would always want the best for you (Proverbs 27:5-6; Better is open rebuke than hidden love. ⁶ Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses). A true friend will remain honest and rebuke you in love instead of trying to flatter you with empty words and promises.
4. Support and guide each other; Support can come in all shapes and sizes (praying for one another, solving each others problems, listening to each other etc.) The goal is to live a life that glorifies God and do His will so we can eventually gain eternal life (Galatians 6:1-2; Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. ² Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ). So having people to support us in the best (Godly) way are the best kind of people to have around.
5. Explore Christ together; It isn’t enough to both serve God and love each other. Try to build a strong community around yourself with the right people. Challenge each other to grow spiritually, come together and study His word, pray for yourselves and the nation you live in, ask questions and improve in ministry (Proverbs 27:17; As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend).

There are many things to consider when choosing friends (especially Godly friends), but some things are more important than others. I listed a few things to strongly consider, but I believe that once your core values and faith align, you have a clear focus and goal, and there is mutual support and love, the rest will come naturally (Proverbs 12:26 – “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray“).

A strong foundation goes a long way in every relationship, and building your foundation on Christ is the best security you can have in times of trouble. Having God in the midst of our relationships keeps us on the right path and guides us in the right direction.
I pray for the spirit of discernment upon each and every one of us, so we know what decisions to make, whom to surround ourselves with, and which way to go.

Stay Blessed x